Being in a relationship is hard work and dedication. We all see old couples and our hearts melt and we aww .. But do you really think it was all play and no work when it comes to staying in a relationship ?? I have been with my husband for a long time now and we have four boys .. 10 .. 9 .. 4 .. 6 !! Let me tell you .. Their are days your gonna wanna throw your hands up !!
Being in a relationship take .. TIME .. PATIENTS .. DEDICATION .. HARD WORK AND YOU HAVE TO REALLY LOVE EACH OTHER ENOUGH TO GET THROUGH THE UGLY AS WELL AS THE GOOD .. NO MATTER HOW UGLY IT IS !!
In this I want it to be clear I am not telling females to settle because come on .. We never should settle for less then we deserve !! I believe that things happen in a relationship to test how much one really loves another !!
Everyone gets into arguments .. All different kinds of relationships .. So why should getting into a argument with the one you love and just end it because you both hurt one another is ok ?? Would you cut your mom or father out your life ?? I know I wouldn't so why is your relationship with your spouse any different ?? Everyone says things they don't mean .. Even you !!!!! You just have to realize is this the one I love and want to spend the rest of my life with .. If you don't feel like that .. Then by all means let go of that relationship !!
You will at times get annoyed with your spouse as well as he'll get annoyed with you !! Its important to both have your own lives to hang with friends because if you feel trapped you will find yourself trying to crawl out ahole !!
Also ladies if your man and you are driving and theirs another female walking down the street and he glances .. Let it be .. He means no harm .. It's not the end of the world because honestly the furthest thing from his mind is thinking about having sex with a random female walking .. He is simply a man and let's be honest .. Are you innocent ?? Do you not look when he's NOT around ?? If anything engage in it .. Say oh she had a nice butt or nice legs .. Guys like that .. Let's em know your not insecure and really that's a major turn on for him !!
All men want is to feel wanted and loved .. Men don't show their emotions like us females do !!
In a argument and things get really heated .. You both say unbelievable things to each other and you feel like it's the end if the world .. He left or said I'm done it vice versa .. Just know if your really his baby .. He'll be back and if he's really the one you will let him back and you will work it out !! He really needs that time to breath and think .. Definitely give it too him and he will think wow she loves me for real .. She let me breath and welcomed me back to work it out .. He'll also think to himself .. Damn I'm a asshole !! Things happen in relationships but like I said it's up to you to decided if it's worth all the hard work !! Nothing in life is easy !!
Ladies if your man is down .. It is your job to encourage him and push him .. Don't nag him and tell him he needs to do this and that .. You haven't worked in two weeks .. Give him time .. More so if your young .. Trust it's worth the encouragement because when he's up .. Your all the way up !!
This is just a little perspective of how I feel and what I believe !!
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